A post for Hanukkah, Christmas, or any other ‘starting over’ holiday. You don’t have to figure everything out. You can just have dinner.
This month has been marked by a lot of coming and going. Various family members going off to collect themselves and returning with a clean shirt and a calmer frame of mind. This is both actual and metaphorical. By the end of November, we had gone through a lot of laundry.
I understand nothing in life if not fresh starts. As a parent, I’ve learned that leaving the door unlocked is often all I have to do.
The trick about this is having no expectations (other than the clean shirt). Kids show up — maybe after weeks or even months — and they sit down and have dinner. And then very often they leave – without answering questions, without explanation. They come and swish, like Zorro, they’re gone.
A psychologist would accuse me of compartmentalizing. How do we have our adult kids just show up to Hanukkah dinner when there is…
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