A sentence I wrote six years ago seems even truer now.  Those of you who are parents in complicated relationships with your adult children will get this. It took me a long time to get it but I finally did and I’m glad of it.

Here’s the answer — it’s not up to us to get things resolved.  It’s up to us to be the tent in the wilderness where the lantern is shining through the canvas.

When I stopped asking questions, stopped trying to be in charge, refrained from interfering, stopped having an opinion about every situation, and lost the reflex to be right, I became the tent in the wilderness where the lantern is shining through the canvas.

And it’s lovely in my tent. Crowded sometimes, but really lovely.

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