Category: Writing

Lemons

This is one of those blog posts that’s going to get me scolded either by members of my own family or by the dreamy adoption people who believe that God personally selected the child they adopted.  I don’t care because the truth of the… Continue Reading “Lemons”

Blue Smoke and Mirrors

This piece was written in response to an Open Call on Open Salon: How busy are you? Hey, my young friends.  You need to learn.  Most people who say they are insanely busy are snowing you.  The ones who make you feel guilty –… Continue Reading “Blue Smoke and Mirrors”

Two Boneheads Go To Dead Couple’s Pass

The Vacation Choices http://vacationchoices.com/ salesman sat down in front of our table, took a pen out of his pocket and started to sketch out the remarkable, life-changing savings we’d experience if only we would hurry up and be the first couple in the room to… Continue Reading “Two Boneheads Go To Dead Couple’s Pass”

Mario

I fell in love with a little boy in Nicaragua 18 years ago.  Tonight he’s recovering from surgery in a hospital in North Carolina.  There’s a story here. I met him when I went to Managua to bring back our newly adopted 6-year old… Continue Reading “Mario”

Do What You Remember: Involving Dads in Their Kids’ Lives

So yesterday it was a terrific sunny winter day in Wisconsin.  Because she had never been sledding anywhere but our front yard, we decided to take our 5-year old granddaughter, Alita, to a big kids’ hill.  Her dad, our son, was strong-armed into coming along.  It… Continue Reading “Do What You Remember: Involving Dads in Their Kids’ Lives”

Soldier Through: The Adoption Home Study

Adoption social workers will tell you otherwise but few things are as daunting as the adoption home study. I personally think that the spectre of it deters a lot of people from going down the adoption road.  Guys especially are put off by the… Continue Reading “Soldier Through: The Adoption Home Study”

A Shadow of My Former Self: How Grandmothers are Different

I’m such a better parent since I stopped raising kids.  Seriously.  You know how I know this?  Here’s my story.  It’s Saturday morning.  There is a lot to do to get ready for our annual Three Kings celebration – a gathering of families who’ve… Continue Reading “A Shadow of My Former Self: How Grandmothers are Different”

My Ad for Adoption

Several years ago, I counselled a young couple who had been trying unsuccessfully to have children.  “Why don’t you just adopt and be happy instead of struggling with this?” Why wrestle everyday with failure (if we want to call infertility failure which I don’t… Continue Reading “My Ad for Adoption”

Everything’s An Accident But This

A lot of life is an exercise in the improbable.  You marry someone because of that look. You buy a house because the seller is desperate.  You get a dog because it seems like a good idea at the time.  You adopt a child… Continue Reading “Everything’s An Accident But This”

Worlds Apart: Adopting an Older Child

This is National Adoption Month and I want people to think about adopting older kids.  Practically everyone can envision themselves rescuing a baby Moses from the reeds but it’s a lot harder to become someone’s mother when you have to get them to agree… Continue Reading “Worlds Apart: Adopting an Older Child”

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